Hello Strictly Homemade readers! I am excited, but nervous to be here today. I have never guest posted for anyone, so I hope that you like what I have in store for you today.
First off, my name is Alayna and I blog over at
Our Semi-Normal Life. I have only been blogging since September of 2010. It started out as a way for family to see what we have been up to and has morphed in the last couple of months into a craft blog of sorts.
I try to do something crafty at least twice a week. With 2 kids, 5 and 13 months, it is hard sometimes. They like to "help." I use the word help very loosely:) The 5 year old likes to hand me things and cut out paper with my cricut. The 13 month old is content emptying out my box of baby food jars and taking all the trash out of the garbage. I think once the 5 year old is in kindergarten this fall, I will be able to get more done. I think. Maybe. Ah, who am I kidding? It will probably be that same as now. But I can hope, right?
Maridith has asked me to share my reward system that I use for the 5 year old, so without further blabbering, here you go:)
Reward System
We have been having a hard time getting our 5 year old son to do things and do them right the first time. I understand that he is 5, but he stills needs to learn to pick up his toys/dirty clothes/messes without me asking/yelling about it all the time. I am also tired of reminding him to do something that I asked him to do yesterday. Well, I think I have found the solution, at least for now.
A few weeks ago, my son got Monopoly out and was playing with the $. He was asking me how much a toy was, and then he would give me the $ and I would give him the toy. This went on the whole day. It gave me an idea on the lack of listening the first time in our home. All I needed to buy, for now, was the play money.
We found some play money at Zurchers (discount party store). Not knowing how much I would need, we bought 2 packs ($1 a piece), which is more than enough for now. This is how it works: each morning, our son gets $20 in $1 bills put into an envelope. If he misbehaves, doesn't want to do something that I ask him to do, whines excessively, etc., I take away some money. If he is extra obnoxious that day and has run out of money before bed time, we start taking money away from the next day. It has been a month, and I have not had to do that, yet;)
Whatever amount of money is left at bedtime, we switch out for larger bills and put those in a separate envelope. Once he reaches $500, we are going to Zurchers and he has $5 to spend however he wants. I figure that even if he gets all $20 everyday, it will still take him about a month to do this. It has been a month since we started and he is just over half way there.
The first day, he had $12 left. The next night, he only had $10 left. HE has been doing really well and there have been several days where I have not had to take any money away. When I threaten to take $ away, he instantly changes his mind and stops whining or does what I ask. If he cleans his room without whining, he earns $100. He has only done this once, but I will take it! He always asks for our help because he says he is just a little kid and it is a big mess. We tell him that he made the mess, so he can be a big boy and clean up the mess. I have also noticed that I don't necessarily have to help pick up the toys. If we tell him to pick up all the monster trucks or all the action figures, he will do it and then ask what else he needs to pick up. He just needs a little direction.
I usually only have to ask once to get results. It really seems to be working for us. I am very happy about that, too. This system has been a little hard on me, though. It is much faster and easier if I pick up the mess. What takes him 15 minutes to do, I could have done in a few minutes. But it is time that he takes responsibility for his messes. Drake does not understand time-outs. Taking toys and/or privileges away does not work. Bribery does not work. So for now, this is what we will do. I am sure that we will have to change it up soon. We will see what the future brings:)
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| Here are the envelopes. Drake picked out the paper and I used the cricut to cut out the dollar signs and numbers. Until I can figure out something to put on it, the blank envelope holds the money that he gets for the day. I have a larger envelope to put the money in that he has earned. I haven't decorated that one yet, either. They are kept on the top of the microwave where he can't reach them without a chair so that he can't cheat and pad his envelopes. I want to get a shutter and hang that in the hallway to store them. I just haven't had the time to find one. I guess I can just pull one of the shutters off one of the back windows though:) |